Those are not the only paths open to you, though I know sometimes it may feel that way. You can be yourself and be someone entirely new at the same time, for a person is a complex thing. Filled with a multitude of facets. Find the parts of yourself that you want to be and build yourself around those until you feel like you finally fit inside your own skin again.

[He is silent for a moment, thinking how to best put it into words.]

Ragged edges can be filed down and smoothed out, couches can be moved. Things may not fit now, which means you must put them together in a different manner. Make new pieces to fit with the old ones... discard those that cannot be salvaged. It wont be the same, no, but you will eventually be whole again.